Many say our world needs more kindness. But what does it really mean to be kind? Is it just being nice instead of being mean? Being nice doesn’t sound world changing to me. True kindness must be something deeper.
CHANGING THE WORLD THROUGH KINDNESS
I delved into the meaning of kindness when I discovered a thing called World Kindness Day. It was started by the World Kindness Movement in 1997.
Its mission is to inspire individuals and nations to create a kinder world through establishing independent kindness programs and projects in cities, schools, and communities across the globe. (source)
It’s celebrated on November 13th in over 28 countries with events, awards, concerts, and “declarations of kindness”.
World Kindness Day is to highlight good deeds in the community focusing on the positive power and the common thread of kindness which binds us…it is a day that encourages individuals to overlook boundaries, race and religion. (source)
While contemplating World Kindness Day I thought to myself – Why just one day? I know it’s great to spread awareness but can’t we do more. Why not be generous and practice kindness all the time?
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama
Then I looked up kindness in the dictionary.
HOW KINDNESS IS DEFINED
Did I find my definition of kindness as being nice instead of mean? Yes and no.
Kindness is the quality of being gentle, caring and helpful.
Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. (emphasis mine)
You could say that being friendly and considerate is being nice but kindness is more. Kindness is generous.
Kindness isn’t something you’re generous with. Kindness IS inherently generous. To be kind is to be generous.
But isn’t being generous just about money? What is generosity then?
Generosity is giving more of what is usual or expected.
Generosity – free from meanness or smallness of mind or character; magnanimous (aka forgiving)
Generosity is the quality of being kind and generous. The quality or fact of being plentiful or large.
Generosity is a quality – like unselfishness, honesty and patience. When you show generosity, you might give away things or money or put others before yourself. But generosity is about more than cash and stuff. When you’re forgiving and gentle to people, you show generosity of spirit. If you give others help or credit, that shows generosity. The world would certainly be a better place if more people showed generosity to others. (emphasis mine)
Kindness (as well as generosity) is defined as a quality of being.
Kindness (as well as generosity) is defined as a quality of being. Share on X
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE KIND?
Being kind is not only being nice instead of being mean, it’s being nice in the face of meanness. It’s considerate, gracious, and forgiving.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. – Ephesians 4:32
Being kind is going the extra mile in helpfulness, demonstrating a generosity of spirit. A generous spirit is quick to help in whatever is needed.
Being kind is showing love because love is kind.
Being kind is showing love because love is kind. Share on X
BEING KIND
We don’t always feel like being kind or loving. But we can overcome. We can develop a kind and generous spirit through practice.
Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier. ― Mother Teresa
Here are 30 ways to practice love and kindness.
I’ve done many of these and maybe you have too. Read through the list and then see below.
- Pick up litter
- Donate food
- Drop off a blanket at a homeless shelter
- Donate toys
- Donate books to the library
- Smile at everyone you see
- Clean up after yourself
- Bring someone a meal
- Let someone in front of you in traffic
- Give a secret gift
- Bring coffee/tea or cocoa to a friend
- Give out free hugs
- Volunteer
- Call or facetime a loved one who lives far away
- Pay for someone’s order behind you in the drive through
- Send a handwritten note
- Walk a dog
- Put up sticky notes of positive words in public bathrooms
- Hold a door open
- Send flowers
- Babysit
- Bring bagels to work
- Leave quarters at the laundromat
- Leave your biggest tip ever
- When you say hi how are you, listen for the answer
- Rake leaves
- Take cookies to a neighbor
- Say hello to a stranger
- Mow a lawn
- Offer to help an elderly neighbor
NOW WHAT
- Have you done something on the list? Let me know and let’s celebrate together.
- Pick one or more things from the list to practice. (Something you’ve never done before.)
- Print out the list for reference and/or make a list of your own.
- Fill your love tank so you can pour love into others get this.
Beautiful!! :))
Thank you.
I love this! I recently read a tweet that asked :what is the cure for violence? My reply was kindness. Kindness is definitely lacking.
I’m so glad you enjoyed it, Bernadette.
Thanks for reading and commenting!
Hi Bernadette,
Oops, I only managed seven on your list. (The easy ones, I guess.)
It’s interesting, the timing of your “practical kindness” post. I fine-tuned my manifesto last night and one of the things I mentioned was the dire lack of compassion in the world, and having it as one of my writing goals to change that.
As your writing does here—compels the reader to pause and reflect, smile, reflect on the day and follow some of your actionable steps.
It reminds me of a silly story we were told as children: the teacher asked her class to provide her with examples of the difference between kindness and loving kindness. No one said a word. Eventually little Johnny raised his hand. “Ma’am, if I’m hungry and you give me a slice of bread, that’s kindness. But if you put butter and jam on the bread, then it’s loving kindness!”
Thank you for the post, Danielle!
Thank you for reading and commenting, Danie!
I wouldn’t say “oops” to having done 7 things on that list – I’d say do a happy dance! Celebrate every victory.
Thank you for your kind words about my writing. I’m happy to hear my words speak to you and are helpful.
Thanks for sharing that story of the little boy. Cute. We can always learn from children.
Loved the post. *applause* thank you.
Thank you. I’m so happy you enjoyed it. Thanks for reading and commenting.
You’re my chosen ONE! I like what you’re made of. Keep up the amazing work Danielle. Here’s looking at you! 🥛🍪
Thank you, Selma. I am what I am by grace alone. Thanks for the cookies and milk!
Everything you wrote is on point! Thank you. I recently started a clothing line called OTL at ontheleau.com and the slogan is BE KIND.
That is so cool, Chrisfel! I checked out your new store and tweeted it. Hope it brings you some customers.
I started a new store this month providing things to remind people of their value. Check it out if you’d like. SOUL WORTHY
Can you talk a bit about when kindness on the surface appears like unkindness. When being kind means being honest even though that honesty may make waves? For example,I’ve just spoken with my elderly mother about some of the difficulties I had when I was young that led me deep into teenage eating disorders, anxiety and depression. I’m almost 60 now and have just now been able to tell her how I felt as a kid and how those behaviors and feelings still come up. I was not accusatory or angry. I was quiet but firm. I said what I said because we could both feel my walls going up and because I do not want to act like I’m an anorexic teenager ever again. I feel I did the best thing in a difficult situation. Don’t you?
Thank you for sharing, Sarah.
It sounds to me like you’re interested in healing your relationship with your mom. My mother and I did this.
Here are 2 articles I’ve written that may help you.
https://www.daniellebernock.com/have-you-been-robbed/
https://www.daniellebernock.com/bridging-the-perception-gap/