Knowing your inherent value is only second to knowing that you’re loved. It matters so much that your life and well-being depend on it.
When you don’t recognize your inherent value it effects how you think, feel, and perceive everything around you.
Those who feel like they don’t matter get depressed and withdraw. Isolation and depression are miserable company to keep. Misery drives people to self-harm and sometimes suicide.
Knowing your inherent value will change everything.
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WHAT IT MEANS TO KNOW YOUR INHERENT VALUE
Knowing you matter isn’t about being pompous, self-absorbed, or narcissistic.
Recognizing your inherent value is proper self-esteem. It’s seeing and understanding your value as a creation of God.
God created humans with value and glory that surpassed the angels. The Bible says He created us just a little lower than himself.
Pause and consider that!
If that wasn’t enough when humanity fell from that glory God got it back for us through Jesus.
God sees enormous value in you!!
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SEEING VALUE
David Mike is a writer friend of mine. I read his book Dishonor: One Soldier’s Journey from Desertion to Redemption. I also interviewed him on my podcast.
In his book, he has a moment where his value is revealed to him while in prison. This moment changes him.
David had many people praying for him through his story, but this one person stands out. A woman named Mary Sue.
God put David on her heart even though she didn’t know him personally. She found out about him through another person who went to her church who knew David. Mary Sue would write David and send him copies of her church bulletin, so he could see his name in the prayer request section.
He appreciated that, but he still felt like just an inmate.
But one day she and her husband visited David in Leavenworth. Two things about this visit changed David.
One was he was shocked she came to visit. Leavenworth is in Kansas, but Mary Sue lived in Georgia. Why would she come all that way?
He found out they were on vacation and driving through Kansas.
The other was every time they addressed him, they called him David. He was used to being called by his last name Mike or even Inmate Mike. He said being called by his first name felt foreign.
But these two things changed how David saw himself. She opened his eyes to see his inherent value.
Knowing your value changes how you see and feel.
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EXPOSING THE LIE
I grew up thinking I didn’t matter. Numerous things caused that mindset.
Coming to know I mattered changed my life.
This change came about following an incident that triggered a childhood trauma of mine.
I was frustrated by the trigger because I’d thought I’d dealt with that trauma already. I had, but it ran deeper than I had known.
Something else had to change but I didn’t know what so I prayed and asked God to help me.
God showed me there was a mindset that held me, prisoner. I wrote about it in my book Emerging With Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, And The LOVE that Heals
When I was triggered there was a “toxic lie sequence that would present itself more in emotion than words.”
The sequence went like this:
“Just shut up, no one wants to hear what you have to say. You do not matter. Everyone else is more important than you. Run away before it shows and everyone see. Shut up – you have nothing of value to say or be. Voice of the silenced.”
I deeply believed the lie that I didn’t matter. I didn’t understand why until later. But I didn’t have to understand for God to help me change how I thought going forward.
To change this mindset, I needed a something to silence the lie. But I also needed to build a new mindset in its place. Two words, I called a silver bullet, are what did the trick.
- I matter.
Over a period of time I spoke those words over myself, over and over again and it has changed how I thought, felt, and lived.
Knowing your value will change how you think.
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TAKING OWNERSHIP OF THE TRUTH
Sharing my story initially terrified me. My love for myself, and inner freedom were fresh and fragile.
But then I saw how much my journey helped others and that helped me too. Now I know my inherent value and I’m compelled to help others gain this as well.
I’ve learned that when we see our inherent value, it empowers us to change in multiple ways.
Many times the lies we believe were planted in childhood, like in my life. Other times they come through emotional trauma as an adult. Either way, we can love ourselves into freedom.
I have learned how to do it and would love to help you too: because you DO have great value. I wrote another book since then called Because You Matter: How To Take Ownership Of Your Life So You Can Really Live.
It’s about reclaiming what rightfully belongs to you – your value and so much more.
I want you to know you matter because the truth is – you do.
It’s important to take ownership of your value. Taking ownership of something is grabbing ahold of it and saying this is mine.
God has treasures inside you that no one else has and the world needs. My new book is to help you find those treasures and own them.
Taking ownership of your inherent value will change how you live.
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WHAT NEXT – Choose one
- Start loving yourself with my 7 Day Challenge HERE.
- Buy a book to help yourself:
- Take the course Heal Your Childhood S.E.L.F.
