Life on planet earth is not always kind. Bad things happen to bring suffering and trauma. These things need healing. I found what works—a Love that heals. I’ll show you how it does it and how you can tap into it.
Let me start with a story.
When I was a teenager I had a dog I named Biscuit. She was the golden color of a perfectly cooked country biscuit, with a white muzzle and blaze on her chest.
I found her on the overpass of the freeway while out walking on a warm summer day. Her coat was matted with dirt and she whined as she walked with her legs half bent and belly almost touching the ground. My heart broke at the sight of her.
I got down close to the ground and coaxed her to come to me. She hesitated for a while before sheepishly crawling to me. When she got to me I embraced the filthy creature with all the love I had in me.
She licked my face and shook with fearful excitement hoping I wouldn’t hurt her. It was clear she’d been abused and either abandoned or had run away.
I brought her home with me and cleaned her up. She was a pretty dog but the trauma she’d endured made her afraid of everything. She would tuck her tail and cower at every movement, loud noise or raised voice.
She slept on my bed with me and grew to know the love I showed her could be trusted.
That love healed the fear out of her and she became a happy and contented dog.
On a warm summer day, I was out walking and remembered that story.
Remembering Biscuit made me all warm and fuzzy inside. Then it hit me. Before love healed the trauma in me I resembled Biscuit—I acted like a stray dog. The trauma I suffered made me afraid of everything until love healed me.
My life is not perfect but fear is no longer my master—The LOVE that healed me is.
My life is not perfect but fear is no longer my master—The LOVE that healed me is. Share on X
THE WAY LOVE HEALS
Loving and being loved is the core of our being. When we feel unloved we feel less than what we truly are.
When we go through abuse or trauma it affects how we perceive our value and it harms our core.
The way Love heals is not magical, instantaneous or superficial.
Love heals from the inside out. Everything in our lives flows out from within us. Thoughts, feelings, intentions, purposes all come from the inside.
Suffering and trauma live on the inside of us silently screaming until they’re healed by the source of all Love. God is Love.
The way loves heals is powerful, thorough and freeing.
The way loves heals is powerful, thorough and freeing. Share on XTrauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.― Danielle Bernock, Emerging with Wings: A True Story of Lies, Pain, and the Love That Heals
WHAT LOVE HEALS
Love heals the core of our being, also known as the soul. This is where we feel, think and make decisions. When this part of us in injured it doesn’t function properly.
Love heals not only the mind, the will, and the emotions themselves, but also how they’re designed to work together.
Love heals our perception of ourselves, others and our perception of Love Himself.
Love heals everything—even our bodies when it has its way.
HOW LOVE HEALS
We were created in love and for love. We need it to live. Love is energy. Love is spirit. Love is alive. Love is a person. God IS Love. If we’re disconnected from Love we have no life, we have no power.
Envision a lamp. It has the base, the light bulb, the shade and the electrical cord with a plug. If it’s not plugged in it can’t light up no matter how much it may be needed or pretty it might be. But once it’s plugged in, it can be all it’s made to be.
The connection is key.
- Connection – We reach for His help and let Him enter our pain. His presence comforts us and He sends helpful connections.
- Validation – He validates our pain which is the beginning of healing. He convinces us of our inherent value so we feel loved.
- Light – He shows us what is true, what is not and what we need. He gives us wisdom, direction, and a new perception.
- Truth – Through His spirit and His word.
- Process – One thing at a time. Little by little. Grace. Patience.
- Faith – Us cooperating with Him and what He tells us. Daring to believe Him and His love.
Love heals through many things working together.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. - Lao Tzu Share on X
TAPPING INTO THIS LOVE
Tapping into this Love that heals is as simple as asking God for help.
There is no shame in needing help. Everyone needs help at some time or another.
I can’t tell you how long it will take. Your journey of healing is unique to you.
I can tell you He’s committed to loving you into wholeness. Jesus is proof of that.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. – Lao Tzu
Your wholeness is worth it.
WHAT NOW
Both beginning and continuing on a journey involves steps.
- What step do you need to take?
- How can I help?
Some resources for you:
- You are Special by Max Lucado – An excellent story illustrating our inherent value and what that does for us.
- Emerging with Wings – My journey through lies and the wounds that created them to the emerging of new life and joy.
- Beauty For Ashes – Help from Joyce Meyer who suffered emotional and sexual abuse.
- The Wall – An illustrated parable to help understand how we build walls and how to tear them down.
- Browse my Amazon store for more.
Wrap Me In Your Arms – listen and feel the love wrap around you like a warm blanket.
Wow! Another well written post! I loved the way you said “When we go through abuse or trauma it affects how we perceive our value and it harms our core.” Perception is everything!
Thank you, Michael. You’re right. Perception IS everything. Thanks for sharing what spoke to you.
Ah! Love this and so so glad to have found your word home here today. Thanks for sharing this, and for sharing Kate’s new book tweet as well. God bless xoxo
Thank you, Meg. So glad to have you here. You’re welcome anytime. Blessings to you as well.
Thanks Dani – Enjoyed your insight!
“Love heals through many things working together…”
Validation has been a key factor in my journey to wholeness. Wrestling with pain diminishes as I give in to the truth that Love brings to my hurting soul. It’s through Love’s perspective that I can receive healing for the hurt and release those who brought brokenness into my soul through their own brokenness… Love Heals – yes indeed!
You’re welcome, Roz. Glad you enjoyed it.
Validation has been huge in my life also. Being seen, known and loved is so powerful!
Thank you for sharing your insight as well.
“Suffering and trauma live on the inside of us silently screaming until they’re healed by the source of all Love. God is Love.
The way loves heals is powerful, thorough and freeing.“
Yes!!! I’ve been screaming for years and finding band-aids for it—lots of Christian things but not God Himself. I had a lot of why’s (like, why didn’t he change things or intervene, etc) and was scared to trust him bcs I saw him as anything but love. But it got to the point where the pain of life and remaining as I was was greater than the healing work and learning to see God differently. When Love heals, I get glimpses of just how powerful, thorough, and freeing it is that it makes me hang in there and do the hard work of dealing w/trauma and moving forward! Such timely words!! Thank you!
Amy, thank you so much for taking the courage to share here.
Those silent internal screams are so painful. I used many “band-aids” myself. Some Christian. Some not. None worked.
It was only by the power of Love, through a long process that healing took place and I emerged free. It was a lot of work but oh so worth it.
YOU are worth it. Dare to continue to believe it as you go through your process.
Reach out anytime – you are not alone!
Love and prayers for you my friend.
I love the story about Biscuit! It reminds me of the scene in White Fang where after years of abuse, White Fang finally gets an owner who treats him with love and kindness but it takes the owner a while to gain the dog’s trust.
Thank you, Kate. When I think about Biscuit I feel all warm inside. She was so precious.
I’m honored and humbled to have reminded you of Jack London’s White Fang.